Gold Digger has my Father, what can I do about it?
Dad is 81 and wife is 46. Dad married her 2 years ago and she is just using him for money. She has put him in the hole with bad checks for crack cocaine and booze. I’m his only son and I used to date her, that’s how they meet (please don’t say it, I messed up).
She gave up her social security checks to marry Dad. Dad retired from a big company and she gets his benefits after 2 years (time is up). He didn’t know she would lose her benefits if they married, I wasn’t told about the marriage till 1 month afterwards. His had a stroke and can’t talk, she got power of attorney.
She has him setting in nursing home waiting for him to pass. He gets 12 thousand death benefits for burial. She plans on creamation and spending the rest. Dad has a plot in another state next to my Mother and he has told me he wants to be put there.
He has a will that was made out in 1977 that makes me executor. It has never been changed. Do I have say about what happens to him or does she? I need a lawyer.
She got power of attorney after he had stroke. She had people witness it as his intentions. He really can’t communicate so this is questionable to as he understood or not.
After Mom died, we changed beneficiary to me on company death benefits. The first thing she did was to change it to herself after they was married.
We are living in a Common Wealth if that makes any difference.
She will get his retirement wages and health insurance the rest of her life. I don’t care about that.
The only thing that I want is for my Dad to be next to my Mom when the time comes.
This will cost money and that is what the burial insurance is for. She thinks the 12 thousand bucks is for her to have. She wants the cheap way of creamation and that’s it.
If she would have him put next to My Mom, she can keep whatever is left over. I’m broke but money doesn’t matter to me.
I’d like to know if having the will, is this enough to tie her money up, legally. I know that she will get a lawyer and so will I. If she won’t put Dad next to Mom, I’d rather the lawyers have the money than her using it for crack. I’d challenge her to a drug test which she wouldn’t pass.
She has made my Dad happy the last few years and I couldn’t ask more. She just needs to do the right thing when the time comes. She has changed since he had the stroke, has a could careless attitude.
Thank you “ILovekeyl” for your answer. I don’t believe that my Dad has be totally in his right mind since my Mother passed in 1994.
He did this out of lonelyness and I don’t believe that he would of married her if he was thinking right. He was in an easy position to be talked into things. This was not the first Crack wh^@$ that played on him. The first one got over $50,000 out of him and he was wanting to marry her also (only after knowing her for less than a month). She went to prision so she was out of his life.
I know what him and Mom wanted done after they passed. We had several long talks about this before Mom went.
I see that you spend a lot of time answering questions on this yahoo thing.
You must know an a lot and it is so nice of you to share all your wisdom with us unknowing folks.
Bet that you don’t have any encyclopedias in your house, since you seem to know it all. Thanks for your time “Sweetie”
Written by crackco on May 16th, 2009 with
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Jim T
#1. May 16th, 2009, at 6:43 PM.
You should contact a local attorney. If he never changed his will it still stands. A court should rule in your favor, especially on the buriel issues.