Do I let him go or stay and support him as he tries to get off drugs?

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#1. May 12th, 2009, at 10:40 PM.

IGHT U DONT WANN RUIN UR OWN LIFE 2 SO TELL HIM IF HE TRIES 2 GET OFF DRUGS AND SHIT ULL STAY WITH HIM
BUT IF U DOESNT LISTEN U COULD RUIN UR LIFE 2 (WHEN ON DRUGS THEY TEND 2 GET WILD) PLEAD HIM 2 GET OFF
CRY INFRONT OF HIM AND HELL EVENTUALLY LISTEN 2 U IF HE ACTUALLY CARES ABOUT U

GOOD LUCK =D

thizrockzz
#2. May 14th, 2009, at 4:02 PM.

youll stay if you care about him… and if you stay just because you feel obligated, maybe you dont really care.

shaniqua211
#3. May 16th, 2009, at 6:15 PM.

This is a tough situation. I think this needs to be a situation of tough love. You need to let him know that it’s you or drugs (he can have one or the other but not both) and he best decide quickly. God forbid that he ends up in the same situation you’ve experienced many family members go through. You’ve dealt with enough addiction in your life girl (you lost a father and that is more than any girl should have to go through). You AND he do not deserve to go down this path. Let him know that you love him and therefore you are doing this for the good of both of you. If he doesn’t discontinue using drugs or you catch him using them behind your back, leave him; and don’t look back.

Wise Guy!
#4. May 19th, 2009, at 11:36 AM.

That is a really tough decision there.

You do what your heart tells you to do and when your heart tells you it is not going to work walk away with your head up and move forward with your life.

undercovernudist
#5. May 22nd, 2009, at 8:24 PM.

i would be most concerned about his crack cocaine habit and alcoholism…………if he is sincerely serious stick by him but the first sign that he is lying, hiding, or decieving you on this issue walk away

mandy
#6. May 25th, 2009, at 9:10 PM.

Stay with him if you love him. It’s far better to have someone to lean on in a hard time like detox than to try to go it alone.

Nickie
#7. May 28th, 2009, at 1:18 PM.

drugs are extremely hard for some to kick. you’ve been through enough crap in your life as it is. you need to think about yourself because if he says he’s going to quit and gets help, and your there with him all the way, you need to be prepared for a time tht he’ll relapse. are you willing to take that chance? can you physically and mentally handle it? coming from my own experience with the ex doing drugs, i tried to help but that was no comparison to how the drugs made him feel. in the long run, your the one who hurts the most.

angelik976
#8. May 31st, 2009, at 2:46 AM.

U can’t change him. It’s nice in theory to want to stay and support him but it will most likely drag u down.

It sound like he has already been keeping things from u and if he really does want to change his life, whats been stopping him?

Alot of drug users want to get off them but the reasons that lead them to it can be very deep internally within. This is most likely the case as he hasn’t quit yet. Drugs also are addictive and some people struggle more than others with addiction.

My advice is leave him. At least until he can quit by himself, at least then you will know he did it for himself. There’s nothing u can do to help at this stage. Don’t let his choice effect your wellbeing

tapeface88
#9. May 31st, 2009, at 7:01 PM.

support him and help him out! if hes confiding in you about this, he wants you to help him out. if youre gonna leave him, leave him. but if you are going to leave him just because he has a potential drug problem, thats kinda messed up! think, you could do him some good by being with him and supporting him and his quitting. if you leave him, who does he have?

James Milber
#10. June 7th, 2009, at 9:23 PM.

Just ask yourself—- is he more of a positive or a negative in your life?

If his drug abuse causes you more hardship than he is worth, your decision is simple.

If he is sincere in his love for you, but struggles with drugs once in awhile, give him a chance?